What do you say after you say hello?
What Do You Say After You Say Hello? explains what makes the winners win, the losers lose, and the in-betweens so boring... In it, Dr Eric Berne reveals how everyone's life follows a predetermined script - a script they compose for themselves during early childhood. The script may be a sad one, it may be a successful one; it decides how a person will relate to his colleagues, what sort of person he will marry, how many children he will have, and even what sort of bed he will die in... What Do You Say After You Say Hello? demonstrates how each life script gets written, how it works and, more important, how anyone can improvise or change his script to make a happy ending...
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- Eric Berne, What do you say after you say hello, The psychology of human destiny, Grove Press (1972)
I read this book in the early 90's and it changed my life.
It was the catalyst to make changes to my life to become a psychotherapist.
Contains everything you need to know about understanding the human condition.
Petruska Clarkson, The Therapeutic Relationship, Wiley (2003).
My favourite psychotherapy book. A must read for any budding therapists.
- Berne was a really innovative and perceptive thinker, who made an effort to keep his writing accessible to non-specialists.
Both Games People Play and What Do You Say After You Say Hello, where the idea of life scripts is explained.
- If you will enjoy the book, I would recommend reading also the sequel "What Do You Say After You Say Hello?". It is much less famous, probably because it was published posthumously, but I liked it even more. It needs to be read later, though, because it heavily references the "Games People Play".
- I can recommend Eric Berne's book "Games People Play", which covers transational analysis and shows how it builds up into lifestyle 'games' such as alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, etc. Might be useful for online discussion forums. Just sayin.
I'd also recommend another book of his "What Do You Say After You Say Hello?" which covers the kinds of scripts that appear to govern a lot of what we think we want out of life.
Regardless of whether you buy into the theories, they're fascinating to read about.
- "What do you say after you say hello?"
Transactional analysis is lifechanging. It's weird to me that this book isn't more popular.
- Another great book, for me, was 'What do you say after you say hello' by Eric Berne. Flow is also good, though.
