The Highly Sensitive Child

Name: The Highly Sensitive Child
ISBN: 9780767908726

author and psychologist whose books have topped 240,000 copies in print now addresses the trait of "high sensitivity" in children-and offers a breakthroughparenting guidebook for highly sensitive children and their caregivers. " With the publication of "The Highly Sensitive Person," Elaine Aron became the firstperson to identify the inborn trait of "high sensitivity" and to show how it affects the lives of those who possess it. Up to 20 percent of the population is born highly sensitive, and now in"The Highly Sensitive Child, " Aron shifts her focus to highly sensitive children, who share the same characteristics as highly sensitive adults and thus face unique challenges as they grow up. Rooted in Aron's years of experience as a psychotherapist and her original research on child temperament, "The Highly Sensitive Child" shows how HSCs are born deeplyreflective, sensitive to the subtle, and easily overwhelmed. These qualities can make for smart, conscientious, creative children, but with the wrong parenting or schooling, they can become unusually shy or timid, orbegin acting out. Few parents and teachers understand where this behavior comes from-and as a result, HSCs are often mislabeled as overly inhibited, fearful, or "fussy,"or classified as"problem children" (and in some cases, misdiagnosed with disorders such as Attention Deficit Disorder).

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mindfulgeekAug 2016
Being a parent can be super hard. It sounds like your wife could use some down time and space from your son. Please encourage her to go out with a friend, get a pedicure or do something that will fill her cup.
I have a high needs 8 year old. I find there are certain things that always trigger her -- poor sleep, hunger, watching TV/playing video games, too much play with other people. It takes a lot of discipline to keep these in balance, but the effort pays off most of the time.
As far as discipline goes, every child has different needs and every parent has their own style. Most likely there is an underlying cause to the behavior -- be it developmental, physical, emotion -- and as parents we rarely know the true cause.
"Time in" rather than "Time out," reading together, going outside in nature can all be healing.
Hand in Hand Parenting has some good gentle discipline resources. "Raising Your Spirited Child" or "The Highly Sensitive Child" may be good resource to assess your son's temperament.
The "Your X-Year Old" series of books is often a good measuring stick to figure out age expected behaviors.
Time ins, punishment, rewards, etc are all linked to short term wins -- not long term success. "Unconditional Parenting" is one of my favorite books on the subject.
Finally, if this is a new behavior, it is possible there was an outside catalyst -- not what a parent wants to think about. Do work on giving your son tools to communicate -- words, drawings, a good understanding of his biology (age appropriate). Having a neutral professional he can talk to is helpful as well.
Good luck -- what a lucky son to have a father so humble as to ask for help.
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rymohrAug 2016
Thank you everyone that offered advice and encouragement on this. Here's a few of the top resources that were shared for anyone else in a similar situation:
http://parenting.stackexchange.com/
https://www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-Moving-Reward...
https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638...
https://www.amazon.com/Highly-Sensitive-Child-Children-Overw...
https://www.amazon.com/No-Drama-Discipline-Whole-Brain-Nurtu...
https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strat...
https://www.amazon.com/Explosive-Child-Understanding-Frustra...
https://www.amazon.com/Simplicity-Parenting-Extraordinary-Ca...
https://www.amazon.com/1-2-3-Magic-Effective-Discipline-Chil...
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