Emotional Intelligence
¿Por qué algunas personas parecen dotadas de un don especial que les permite vivir bien, aunque no sean las que más se destacan por su inteligencia? ¿Por qué no siempre el alumno más inteligente termina siendo el más exitoso? ¿Por qué unos son más capaces que otros para enfrentar contratiempos, superar obstáculos y ver las dificultades bajo una óptica distinta? El libro demuestra cómo la inteligencia emocional puede ser fomentada y fortalecida en todos nosotros, y cómo la falta de la misma puede influir en el intelecto o arruinar una carrera. La inteligencia emocional nos permite tomar conciencia de nuestras emociones, comprender los sentimientos de los demás, tolerar las presiones y frustraciones que soportamos en el trabajo, acentuar nuestra capacidad de trabajar en equipo y adoptar una actitud empática y social, que nos brindará mayores posibilidades de desarrollo personal.
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- The single most impactful book on my mental health was Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence. The Amygdala chapters were truly life altering for me in helping me overcome a lot of childhood trauma. You learn how that little bit works, and how to reprogram it, and it's incredibly powerful. Not easy, but very powerful.
- Seconding the recommendation for that book. It helped me grow as an individual.
Also the Emotional Intelligence book by Daniel Goleman. Its explanation of the Amygdala's role in fight or flight emotional regulation was very impactful for me.
- Not just advice, but a series of events, some books I read and a change in situation:
1: In my early 20s, I worked as a junior sysadmin during the mid 90s. My manager sent me to a interpersonal skills course after telling me that people thought I was basically a jerk. That shocked me because of course who thinks that about themselves? But I reacted by resolving to be nicer to people, and the course I took introduced me to thinking about how others perceive me and how their inner worlds are vastly different to my own. As an introverted and neglected child, I hadn't been taught many lessons that I needed to learn. I grew up long before social media, so I escaped its toxic influence.
You need people who will call you out and tell you to improve, and more importantly teach you how to improve.
2: I moved out and escaped my mother and her stifling negativity. By striking out on my own, however uncomfortable I was, made me grow. This one isn't very easy these days, I was privileged to live in a time where it was pretty easy compared to today. Even if they love you, your parents/guardians/friends/hometown/job may be subconsciously holding you back.
You have to grow beyond your childhood.
3: After being told I lacked interpersonal skills, I got interested in just what those skills were. I read a lot of books on the subject, but these stood out to me: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, How to Practice by The Dalai Lama, and Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. You have to find your own lessons from these books, but what I took away from them was that you can choose your reaction to situations, that you're often controlled by your amygdala's fight/flight/fuck/food reactions and you have to be able to recognize that and act accordingly.
You have to be aware of why you think and feel things, and that you can control your reactions to those things.
4: I spent time at parties, going out to the pub, having fun with people in real life. Just as it takes a village to raise a child, so it takes a party to raise an adult.
Learning to be an adult is best taught by being physically around other adults.
5: Knowing that I wanted to be a good person, to try to treat other people with respect. Helping people without the expectation of anything in return is a wonderful feeling that I deeply enjoy. This leads into all sorts of things, like leadership is serving others, not controlling them. That being cut off on a road is just something that happens.
Treat others with kindness.
6: Learning that everyone else in the world has their own complex set of wants and needs, that most people are just trying to live their lives with a minimum of fuss. That you yourself are just one of billions doing just the same as everyone else.
You are not the main character.
Those situations, books, changes all set me on a path that I'm still working at today 25 years later. I was recently described by some coworkers as Ihsan, previously I've been referred to as a Mensch. Those moments make life precious to me :)
- The key is called Emotional Intelligence. That book is one of the best about that topic: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-Matter-More-Th...
- My apologies, I knocked that comment out super quick between chores and forgot about it.
How to Practice is by the Dalai Lama: https://smile.amazon.com/How-Practise-Way-Meaningful-Life-dp...
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman: https://smile.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-Matter-More-...
- Some that others haven't mentioned:
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Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. Good for helping you to recognize how your mind is working, and to work with it to improve yourself.
How To Practice by The Dalai Lama. Again, understand your mind to improve your ability to deal with life. I suggest this and the previous book because you can't build a great house without a sturdy foundation.
Dune by Frank Herbert. There's some lessons in here about managing your mind and your reactions to stimuli or adverse situations. Yes, seriously I'm suggesting a fiction novel :)
Others if I think of them!
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