How to stubbornly refuse to make yourself miserable about anything--yes, anything!

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1. marcinrealFeb 2025
   I really resonate with the "Acceptance" section. I came to a similar realization, that having strong negative emotions about the pain just made everything worse. Stress causes inflammation which doesn't help, and only hurts the situation.

   As for actual strategies to manage emotions, I would strongly recommend reading books about REBT (the precursor to CBT) such as "How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything-yes, Anything!" It's honestly been life-changing, and I think a lot of folks here would appreciate the rational approach to adjusting one's beliefs, feelings, and actions. Being able to avoid unnecessary negative emotions, and irrational beliefs that upset you, can be a superpower.

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2. throwaway168544Mar 2021
   "How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything: Yes, Anything" by Albert Ellis.

   Helped me with my depression, enough said.

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3. throwaway98432Dec 2020
   How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything: Yes, Anything by Albert Ellis
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4. cha-choJul 2015
   Exercise and sunlight are scientifically proven to reduce depression. Indulge in each for at least one hour a day. Two books (with very long titles) that may be helpful in understanding and combatting the illness are: "The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic" and "How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable about Anything--yes, Anything!"
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5. SMAAARTMay 2021
   Mainly this:

   > What helped immensely is to start blogging daily, and more often than daily, about the events in my life, my thinking, my reactions starting from the points of view that:

   > A) I am accountable for what happens to me

   > B) I am 100% wrong when something unpleasant happens to me

   > And that, in the course of a few month, changed my life in tangible manners.

   And also:

   I am reading about Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) specifically:

   How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything-yes, Anything!

   How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons

   A guide to rational Living

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