The Macho Paradox

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1. bitopsJul 2013
   > What's even sadder is that there's no obvious or easy way to fix it.

   There is no easy way to fix it, but there is a way to fix it. I won't go so far as to say that it's obvious to many people.

   The way to do it? Work to change men's attitudes and biases towards women. It can definitely be done, but it takes hard work and cultural change.

   I would recommend the book "The Macho Paradox" by Jackson Katz for anyone interested in the topic of gender discrimination. Jackson writes well, he's a man, and he brings a mans perspective to the issues. There is no demonization or undue blame assigned to men in the book. It's a powerful read.

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2. sahin-boydasOct 2018
   Men ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He's done it with hundreds of audiences: I ask just the men: What steps do you guys take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? after some answers someone finally raises his hand and soberly states, 'Nothing. I don't think about it.' Then I ask the women the same question. What steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? Women throughout the audience immediately start raising their hands. As the men sit in stunned silence, the women recount safety precautions they take as part of their daily routine.

   - Hold my keys as a potential weapon. - Look in the back seat of the car before getting in. - Carry a cell phone. - Don't go jogging at night. - Lock all the windows when I sleep, even on hot summer nights. - Be careful not to drink too much. - Don't put my drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured. - Own a big dog. - Carry Mace or pepper spray. - Have an unlisted phone number. - Have a man's voice on my answering machine. - Park in well-lit areas. - Don't use parking garages. - Don't get on elevators with only one man, or with a group of men. - Vary my route home from work. - Watch what I wear. - Don't use highway rest areas. - Use a home alarm system. - Don't wear headphones when jogging. - Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime. - Don't take a first-floor apartment. - Go out in groups. Own a firearm. - Meet men on first dates in public places. - Make sure to have a car or cab fare. - Don't make eye contact with men on the street. - Make assertive eye contact with men on the street.”

   ― Jackson Katz, The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help

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