Conscious loving
Here is a powerful new program that can clear away the unconscious agreements patterns that undermine even your best intentions. Through their own marriage and through twenty years' experience counseling more than one thousand couples, therapists Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have developed precise strategies to help you create a vital partnership and enhance the energy, creativity, and happiness of each individual. You will learn how to: Let go of power struggles and need for control; Balance needs for closeness and separateness; Increase intimacy by telling the "microscopic truth"; Communicate in a positive way that stops arguments; Make agreements you can keep; Allow more pleasure into your life. Addressed to individuals as well as to couples, Conscious Loving will heal old hurts and deepen your capacity for enjoyment, security, and enduing love.From the Trade Paperback edition.
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- I was addressing this statement from OP
>reserved only for the deepest of lovers
For some reason I interpreted this as deep love being random. Maybe that wasn't the intent, after re-reading it.
Just wanted to demonstrate what had worked for me to rekindle intimacy. And that it was teachable.
The book "Conscious Loving" by Gay and Kaitlyn Hendricks is the book that talks about telling the Microscopic Truth. It's helped me tremendously.
I enjoy their newsletter a lot. They discuss in detail many of the concepts in their books. And it's free.
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Here's Why Sharing Your Emotions - Even The Messy, Angry Ones - Is Critical For A Great, Intimate Relationship
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- For any suffering a communication issue in your relationship, I can't recommend enough the book: "Conscious Loving" [1]
Asides from being an enjoyable read, it provides an excellent framework and guide for how to have conversations about difficult topics successfully. It pairs well with the book "Nonviolent Communication"
These things take time and effort, but they really truly work.
[1] https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-Co-Commitment-Gay-He...
- If you're just learning to be open, you'd probably enjoy the book, Conscious Loving. There's a whole section dedicated to telling the "microscopic truth" in your relationships. https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-Co-Committment-Gay-H...
Painful to do in the beginning, but as people get use to your new truth telling ways, they learn to appreciate the honesty.
- I find most people will be vulnerable if you start the conversation that way by exposing your own vulnerability.
The book Conscious Loving touches on “telling the microscopic truth” which provides a lot of tactics for telling messy, complicated feelings. It’s a wonderful read and will improve your relationships.
- I don't get it, am I the only hacker that ever has problems with relationships?
I've done more than my fair share of stumbling (including one divorce) and at the age of 32 only now do I feel like I am "getting it".
Nonetheless, I'd recommend the book _Conscious Loving_ by Gay and Kaithlyn Hendricks.
Instead of the superficialities preached by the Venus books, etc they get to the heart of the matter by having us examine ourselves for personal projects, secrets that we are hiding and other subconscious developments that lay at the root of our psyche. We our worlds truly are in our head and our relationships are manifestations of those thoughts. I finally found a book that helps me peal back those layers and helped me figure out why I had been fucking up over so many years...
- Kathlyn Hendricks, a relationship expert (_Conscious Loving_ is a fascinating book for the engineering mind dealing with relationships), offers this advice for when to leave a personal relationship (point 2 of the audio). Maybe it's applicable when pursuing ideas as well?
"Have you worked on the relationship so long that the amount of pain you feel overshadows the possibilities? Time to leave."
