Name: You're Not Listening
ISBN: 9781250297204

You're Not Listening

"At work, we're taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We're not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it's making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here. In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we're not listening, what it's doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cutting expose, rousing call to action, and practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It's time to stop talking and start listening"-- Despite constant digital communication we are lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. Murphy explains why we're not listening, what it's doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend.

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seanosaurDec 2022

Think Again by Adam Grant - A book on how to rethink any/everything. I think a lot of us could read and apply the lessons from this book.

You're Not Listening by Kate Murphy - If you're like me and "listening" actually means "solutioning", read this book.

Longitude by Dava Sobel - The fascinating and infuriating story of how longitude was created/discovered/measured/whatever.

Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir - I loved The Martian and after what felt like a misstep with Artemis this is a return to form.

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chiefalchemistDec 2022

"You're Not Listening" by Kate Murphy.

Having read more books on "how to communicate better" than I should admit to, Murphy's easy yet highly usedul read reminded me just how important listening is, just how important people feeling like they've been heard it.

I'm honestly not doing it just, and pardon the cliche but it was a game changer for me.

https://www.harvard.com/book/youre_not_listening/

p.s. This was my second answer. Sorry?

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chiefalchemistDec 2022

"You're Not Listening" by Kate Murphy.

It's not at all software related but it will make you a better teammate, partner (i.e., client relationship), manager and/or leader.

Technology is the easy part. People, that's the difference between average and above.

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chiefalchemistAug 2022

- Creativity Inc. - Amazing story packed with management / leadership lession

- Thinking In Bets - Hacks for better decision making

- You're Not Listening (Kate Murphy) - Up your listening game to increase the quality of your life

- The War of Art - Usual on lists for creatives but it applies for all (including engineers)

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chiefalchemistJul 2022

Coincidentally, I'm closing in on the end of "You're Not Listening" by Kate Murphy.

And while it has nearly zero tech-ness if you will to it (sans the discussion of mobile devices on human relationships), I would recommend it to any who is in tech. Mainly because listening is as important as broadcasting (i.e., speaking, emails, etc.). We need to hear clients, users, managers, etc. It's a quick and easy read.

My only complaint about the book is I hoped for a chapter or two on how to improve your odds to be heard (especially when trying to communicate with someone with average or below listeing skills).

https://www.journalistkatemurphy.com/#ynlbook

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