
Introduction, vector functions, and electrostatics -- Surface integrals and the divergence -- Line integrals and the curl -- The gradient.
Daniel Kleppner and Norman Ramsey, "Quick Calculus" - We used this for math background when I was taking AP Physics in high school. The physics textbook was Resnick and Halliday, which uses calc throughout. It is not particularly intuitive, but the "programmed learning" approach makes it very easy to pick up enough basic computational ability to do applications. (The phrase "programmed learning" is so old that maybe I should clarify that it has nothing to do with computers.)
H. M. Schey, "Div, Grad, Curl, and All That" - This might be helpful for people taking vector calculus, or using it in an electromagnetism course in physics. In fact, a lot of his examples are from E-M. Very good at providing intuition without too many technicalities.
I think the best uses for books like these are: (a) You want to get the "big ideas" without worrying too much about technical facility (maybe because you won't ever need it - e.g. you're just learning for your own interest); (b) To provide a fair amount of the math you'll need in (say) a physics course; (c) As prep before taking a standard calc course, or maybe as a refresher. Books like Thompson, Kleppner and Ramsey, or Schey will help with the big picture and to boost confidence but it's best to read them before taking the "real" calc course - since once the "real" course is running you'll be too busy with the work in the course to read something else on the side. But do whatever works for you. Calculus really is wonderful - have fun!
Hell yeah you want Gilbert. Watching the guy's MIT lectures is a joy and the gumby-colored book reads like a narrative. I wish my calc books were as well written, else I'd not be reviewing vector calc with some intensity in my 30s.
That said, I have to recommend "Div, Grad, Curl, and All That" as I believe that I found it through someone's random comment here and it was a stellar find. I've realized I'm rather rusty on these topics and this book is very assertive of its target audience.
You’ll already be one step ahead by the time you get to the second course, which is good, because you can strongly benefit from learning vector calculus at that time. I really enjoyed the text “Div, Grad, Curl and all that”.
This was "optional" reading in my Undergrad Calculus class at Brown, I probably was the only student who bothered to read it, and it made most of engineering a breeze for the next 3.5 years, whether electromagnetism, fluid dynamics, etc.