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    How to be a gentleman

    Bridges, John · 1998

    In a world of cellular phones, express lanes, business lunches, and political correctness, being a gentleman seems to be more and more complicated. Gentlemanly behavior, says John Bridges, is not about dos and don'ts, but about common sense and courtesy. A gentleman does not use his cellular phone during a concert, nor does he borrow more money than he can afford to pay back. He always puts the toilet seat down. He asks for directions when he is lost, and he knows how to order a bottle of wine. How to Be a Gentleman is a book for men that combines Emily Post and Miss Manners without being snobbish, boring, or intimidating. Good manners means thinking of others, being there when you are needed, and getting out of the way the rest of the time. This book makes it easy to be a gentleman. A true gentleman is comfortable with traditional etiquette, and guidelines on the traditional are included here, as are more modern points of etiquette such as how to respond to voice mail and answering machine messages and how to deal with e-mail in a courteous manner. How to Be a Gentleman is an indispensable guide for men of all ages who aspire to become gentlemen. - Jacket flap.

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    1. ramses0Nov 2025
      We tend to calculate "people at percentages", ie: 2 adults, 2 kids, 50% chance of showing up rates as an attendance-load of 1.5 virtual people (for food calculations).

      Then sometimes you need the "max + min souls" (seats, plates), and account for what we call "the S-factor" if someone brings an unexpected guest, roommate, etc.

      Lastly: there is a difference between a "party" and a "soirée" (per my college roommate: "you don't have parties, you have soirées!")

      All the advice is really accurate, makes me miss hosting. If you want to go a little deeper, there's a book called "How to be a Gentleman", and it has a useful section on "A Gentleman Hosts a Party", and then "Dads Own Cookbook" has a chapter on party planning, hosting, preparation timelines... there's quite a bit of art and science to it!

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    2. profquailAug 2009
      Check this book out (How to Be a Gentleman):

      http://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Gentleman-Contemporary-Courtesy...

      I got a copy around the time I started college, and it's really quite invaluable.

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