Name: The new diary
ISBN: 9780874771503

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yesenadamMar 2020

>much better off than any of my family before me

How so? I doubt it. That sounds like a terrible life, with no enjoyment in it of any kind. A life worth living doesn't build itself! Really sounds like you are torturing yourself. Being very mean to yourself. It's easy to do - we aren't taught that you are someone in your life you have to be kind to, the most important person in fact, as it's virtually impossible to love others while being so mean to yourself. I had to learn about loving myself. Treat yourself like you would treat someone you really love.

Imagine someone you really really love, then you forcing them to live how you are living. Doing a job they hate, no friends or family visits, not involved in anything, no joy or pleasure in life.. It would be obvious that it's a very cruel way to treat someone, amounting to torture. People don't enjoy those things, or being deprived of so many things. What things do people enjoy? Imagine a rich, fulfilling life, and work on giving that to the person you love - yourself.

Self-help books helped me a lot with this stuff. They're the main thing that helped, I guess, apart from being directly inspired by other people and inspiring books. Everyone has their own favourites, but some that helped me - SARK's first half-dozen books, Paul Kurtz Exuberance, Carol Lloyd Creating a Life Worth Living, Joanna Field/Marion Milner's books starting with A Life of One's Own, Richard Bach books, Austin Kleon books, Zen and the Art of Making a Living, Tristine Rainer The New Diary, Ben Zander The Art of Possibility, Gracian's The Art of Wordly Wisdom. Montaigne. Plutarch. Emerson. Susan Faludi's Stiffed may help you understand yourself, your world, your work, your life better than any of these. Good luck!

To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. – Oscar Wilde

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themodelplumberJan 2017

In case it helps, not OP but here is my daily journal template:

https://pastebin.com/djyFiZkz

This is not on paper but I do the same thing on paper when I'm away from the computer. On my computer a cron job just pops this into a Dropbox folder as YYYY-MM-DD.md and I edit it from there.

There are some neat journaling cues available if you read e.g. "The New Diary" by Tristine Rainer. Like writing in the third person, or just viewing a diary/journal as a place to scribble down work notes and improving on it from there.

I probably change my own template every 1-2 months. You'll see on the "schedule" portion that the least productive part of my day is 1-3 p.m., so I encourage a lot of fun and relaxation during that time as a way of releasing anxiety and picking up task momentum.

Most of my work in the journal is under the "other" heading, and I don't fill out every heading every day. Most entries just have a score for the day, some notes on why I chose that score, and ideas to improve it, and then a lot of ideas under "Other".

Every Friday I do a sort of "information archaeology" thing where I go back over my paper & digital journal entries and round up reusable tips or things I've learned into a "frameworks" folder where I have separate files for things like building websites, coding, preparing for meetings, working with various types of people, possible new hobbies, etc. The recapture of these ideas has been worth quite a lot to me, as it feels like I have a better foothold next time I encounter the problem.

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themodelplumberApr 2016

Hi, just saw your reply. I'm glad it helped. Other books I recommend are "The Wisdom of the Enneagram," (very good advice, though based on a different test) "8 Keys to Self Leadership" (fun exercises for INTJs, mainly Ni, Te, Ti, Se, and Fi, but also Fe and Si if you really want to round out your personality--btw Nardi himself is an INTJ) and "The New Diary" by Rainer (a good way to coax out helpful extraverted thinking in an INTJ).

Online references I like include the Socionics wiki and the Personality Junkie website.

http://personalityjunkie.com/the-intj/

Hope that's helpful.

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da5eJul 2011

The New Diary by Christine Rainer is another good book on exploring through writing. It has many of the same techniques. The freewriting technique not only gives you ideas, but sometimes a sense of peace about what worries you.

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mjklinJul 2016

Where I'm Reading From, by Tim Parks

The Inevitable, by Kevin Kelly

Ideas that Changed the World, by Felipe Fernandez-Armesto

A Reader's Manifesto, by B.R. Myers

Framed!, by Hari Singh

Leaves of Grass, by Walt Whitman

Why Education is Useless, by Daniel Cottom

The New Diary, by Tristine Rainer

Raising a Happy, Unspoiled Child, by Burton White

Do way, way more in WorkFlowy, by Frank Degenaar