How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk
You can stop fighting with your children! Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children—and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Now, in this thirtieth-anniversary edition, these award-winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based on feedback they’ve received over the years. Their methods of communication—illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action—offer innovative ways to solve common problems. You’ll learn how to: • Cope with your child’s negative feelings—frustration, disappointment, anger, etc. • Express your anger without being hurtful • Engage your child’s willing cooperation • Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill • Use alternatives to punishment • Resolve family conflicts peacefully
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What Hacker News says
- How I love this book! I’ve read it at least five times. It has helped me tremendously as a parent – and in every other aspect of my life. It’s in pure form, and it’s also a very fun read. In fact, I probably think more about its lessons in the context of adult interactions that I do of child interactions.
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.
- Totally agree! Other similar books using similar models:
Connect, by David Bradford and Carole Robin (on business and personal relationships)
How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk (on parenting)
It's funny how at the end of the day, all interpersonal relationships work the same way, isn't it :-)
- I recommend the book How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk.
The same basic techniques work on toddlers, teens and many adults.
- We might be saying the same thing, but one reason toddlers act so ridiculously is because they are emotionally responding just as an adult might, if they were treated like a toddler. Ie, “because I don’t think you have a valid internal POV, I’m going to just decide for you with no explanation”
This perspective comes from the book “how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk,” which is one of my favorite parenting books of all time.
- For those actually trying to talk to a toddler, I recommend Adele Faber's How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk.
Also maybe useful for talking to middle aged toddlers.
- Book recommendations:
* Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy
* How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (The How To Talk Series) by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Good luck!
