A good enough parent

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1. BrajeshwarDec 2022
   I didn't realize I might have the wrong link to the book everywhere I wrote until now (this comment thread). "A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing" by Bruno Bettelheim.

   It is not a popular book. The approaches and ideas were great though, and that was indeed the beauty of the book. Here is the correct link - https://www.amazon.com/Good-Enough-Parent-Book-Child-Rearing...

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2. BrajeshwarDec 2022
   "A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing" by Bruno Bettelheim. Here is the correct link - https://www.amazon.com/Good-Enough-Parent-Book-Child-Rearing...
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3. BrajeshwarDec 2022
   "A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing" by Bruno Bettelheim. Here is the correct link - https://www.amazon.com/Good-Enough-Parent-Book-Child-Rearing...
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4. BrajeshwarDec 2022
   As parents we wanted to be one of the better ones. A while back, we started with Bringing up Bébé, and since then learnt How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk; we were even Prepared while Reviving Ophelia. This year, we realized, we want to just settle on being A Good Enough Parent.

   1. https://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Up-Bébé-Discovers-Parenting/...

   2. https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638...

   3. https://www.amazon.com/Prepared-What-Kids-Need-Fulfilled/dp/...

   4. https://www.amazon.com/Reviving-Ophelia-Saving-Selves-Adoles...

   5. https://brajeshwar.com/2022/books/

   6. https://goodenoughparenting.com/

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5. spoilerMay 2022
   > But parents almost always overstep their bounds to do what they think is best for their child.

   Most people who believe this have grown up with either narcissistic parents, or just otherwise emotionally (not fiscally or materially, which neglected children often confuse misattribute as love and care) neglectful parents.

   The narcissistic ones simply love to fill their children's heads about how self-sacrifical and hard parents they are, yada yada yada.

   I strongly encourage anyone to read up on "good enough parenting" and narcissistic family dynamics, especially if you think you had an "overprotective" parent that couldn't respect boundaries.

   Edit: here's some links to encourage research: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_enough_parent

   https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2020/03/15/12-unspoken-rul...

   https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_parent

   Aside: there's growing research that supports narcissism (especially intergenerational narcissism) and narcissistic abuse has been on the increase, and that roughly 1 in 5 people have suffered from narcissistic abuse at least once in their life (check out Ramani Durvasula's book or literally pick any literature or research on narcissism)

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