Hunt, Gather, Parent

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1. effisforApr 2026
   For another perspective, see Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff. She looked at indigenous cultures alive today and makes the compelling argument that the Western boomers were the outlier - not their kids. 'Free range' meant having no meaningful responsibilities or expectations within the tribe, other than 'do what you like all day'.
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2. rasulkireevJan 2026
   FINISHED:

   - Traction by Gabriel Weinberg (it's ok)

   - A Skill Called Luck by Jakob Greenfeld (very good)

   - Unf*ck Your Sales by Jakob Greenfeld (very good)

   - Books by Alex West (very good)

   - How to Live by Derek Sivers (very very good)

   - Secret of Secrets by Dan Brown (really enjoyed it)

   - The 22 Immutable Laws of Marketing (it's okay)

   - The Narrow Road by Felix Dennis (it's okay)

   - Oh Crap! Potty Training by Jamie Glowacki (success)

   - Вишнёвый Сад Чехов Антон Павлович (did not like it at all)

   - Gulliver's Travels Jonathan Swift (liked it)

   - Hunt, Gather, Parent Michaeleen Doucleff (this book is a game changer, strong recommend for every parent)

   - MAKE by Pieter Levels

   - Main Street Millionaire by Codie Sanchez

   - Start Small, Stay Small by Rob Walling

   - The Sweaty Startup by Nick Huber

   - The Last Templar by Raymond Khoury (did not like it at all)

   - Чем Люди Живы Лев Николаевич Толстой (nice)

   - 80/20 Sales and Marketing by Perry Marshall (pretty good)

   - Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl (eye opening)

   - Growth Levers and How to Find Them by Matt Lerner (meh)

   - Alexander Pushking Stories (very nice. crazy how he makes rhymes yet the whole thing makes sense)

   IN_PROGRESS:

   - War and Piece (I'm shocked at how much I'm liking it)

   - Scaling Fast by Swizec Teller (really good, about to finish)

   - Unreasonable Hospitality (it alright)

   - Mom Test (it's good, but for some reason I keep failing to finish it)

   - Marcus Aurelius Meditations (reading it slowly as inspiration strikes)

   - Seneca Dialogues

   - Ultimate Guide to Link Building by Garrett French

   STARTED, BUT DID NOT FINISH (That's a big add list):

   - Michel de Montaigne "Essays"

   - Gödel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid (feels to hard to tackle right now)

   - Seeking Wisdom

   - Product Led Growth

   - Demand Side Sales

   - Odyssey by Homer

   - Full Stack Tao by Alex Kondov

   - Logic for Programmers

   - The Story of Philosophy

   - The Story of Civilization Vol 1

   - The Communist Manifesto Karl Marx

   - Economic Facts and Fallacies Thomas Sowell

   - The Beginning of Infinity David Deutsch

   - Obviously Awesome by April Dunford

   - SPQR: A History of Ancient Rome Mary Beard

   - American Kingpin by Nick Bilton (it's good, just felt irrelevant, will revisit)

   - Indexing Beyond the Basics by Tobias Petry (only read it when necessary)

   - The Mind Illuminated by John Yates (can't keep meditations to stick)

   Note:

   - I keep notes on books I finished on my site, but need to bring it up to date: https://www.rasulkireev.com/book-notes/

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3. glassjosephJan 2025
   While difficult, it's often possible to teach children to be content on their own, or playing nearby, at least for longer stretches. The book Hunt, Gather, Parent helped me improve a lot as a parent. First step was not reacting when a spill or mistake or misbehavior happened, just staying super chill and calm. Maybe ignoring or at most shooting a single "look" if it was clearly intentional. I realized kids do want to do good, they just are bad at it. Next was giving freedom, but also more expectations. I stopped constantly commanding and telling my kid what to do all the time. As the commands got less frequent we were both happier and she listened more. When she was going to hurt herself, I'd explain what would happen instead of ordering her. Instead of "Don't touch that!" I say "That will burn you if you touch it". If it's the rare physical danger so severe that I need to protect her, I change the environment or keep an eye on her.
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4. aybassiounyDec 2024
   I used to think this is where I am heading, until reading “Hunt, Gather, Parent”, and realizing that being a good parent does not mean my existence as an individual needs to stop. Me and my kids can co-exist. I just need to let go of controlling their lives.
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5. mike1o1Nov 2024
   We purchased an Inglesina hook-on chair cover which was great as it allowed the little ones to sit at the table with us, instead of feeling separate with some of the bigger high chairs. It was a pain to clean, so we also got a Wunderland cover for it. We used this from around 6mo to about 3.5y for my older, and 6mo to 2.5y for my younger one.

   Magna-tiles have been a big hit for both from about 2yo and on. Lots of knockoffs on Amazon, but we haven't had any issues with the 2 sets we purchased.

   For books I really connected with "Hunt Gather Parent".

   Aside from that, I'd say top thing is patience and sometimes just being quiet and not interfering when they're playing.

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6. godzillafartsDec 2023
   - Ballou, Brendan. Plunder: Private Equity's Plan to Pillage America.

   - Smil, Vaclav. How the World Really Works: The Science Behind How We Got Here and Where We're Going.

   - Doucleff, Michaeleen. Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans.

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