Reveals how traumatic experiences can be used for positive mental development, challenging mainstream beliefs about healing and moving past trauma to explain how pain can provide learning opportunities and connect people to the world.
On a more spiritual note, I'd also recommend Mindsight by Dan Siegel [2]. An excellent book for getting some intuition into how people's past experiences shape them. The Trauma of Everyday life by Mark Epstien [3] blends teachings of Buddhism and mindfulness with the life long lessons of a Psychotherapist.
[1] http://www.amazon.co.uk/Cakes-Custard-Category-Theory-unders...
Mindsight - Dan Siegel
Conflict Communications - Rory Miller
Just started it, but so far it's a well-written discussion of OAuth, OpenID Connect, UMA, and JSON for API security.
The State of the Art by Iain Banks
I have been forcing myself to ration out the Culture books so I don't run through them too quickly. Such a great series.
The Trauma of Everyday Life by Mark Epstein
The fourth book I've read by him, a really good synthesis of Buddhism and psychology. I was pleasantly surprised to see him appear in Dan Harris's 10% Happier, too.
Some other great ones:
The Neurobiology of We - Daniel Siegel (lots of stuff on interdependence here)
Zealot - Reza Aslan (a great book detailing the life of the man, Jesus of Nazareth)
1984 - George Orwell (I think very topical)
The Field - Lynne McTaggert (some "woo" but thought provoking)
That's the top of my list for next year. I have HN to thank for that, too - it was name dropped in a video recommended by macmac [1].