Name: Radical honesty
ISBN: 9780970693846

Radical honesty

"We all lie like hell," says Dr. Brad Blanton. "It wears us out...it is the major source of all human stress. It kills us." But you CAN escape the jail of your mind! For over 20 years, Radical Honesty has helped tens of thousands of people do exactly that. This is not a kinder, gentler self-help book. Dr. Blanton, a psychotherapist and expert on stress management, explores the myths, superstitions and lies by which we all live. He shows us how stress comes not from the environment, but from the self-built jail of the mind. And what keeps you in our self-built jails is lying. Not telling your friends, lovers, spouses, or bosses about what you do, feel, or think keeps you locked in that mind jail. The way out is to get good at telling the truth, and Dr. Blanton provides the practical tools you can use to escape from that jail of the mind. This book is the cake with the file in it. In Radical Honesty, Dr. Blanton helps you:... have a life that works... have relationships that are alive and passionate...create intimacy where none exists...get over sh*t and be happy. Get Radical Honesty today and let the truth set you free! * * * * * * * * "Radical Honesty allowed me to be honest in a way I didn't even recognize as possible, and to have the courage to be so...This book has been a game-changer for me." -- Joshua Voiles "Outrageously entertaining and wonderfully wise...apply it liberally throughout your life." -- Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., co-author of Conscious Loving

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lastofusSep 2017

Check out the book "Radical Honesty" by Brad Blanton. He proposes a way of living ones life without all of the small lies, and the benefits there of.

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hndudeNov 2014

Reading The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle), A New Earth (Eckhart Tolle), and Radical Honesty (Brad Blanton). I am now at peace and happy all of the time. I could spout off about technical stuff, but none of that has paid off as much as the mindset these books gave me.

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leobgNov 2021

See my comment above. “Radical Honesty“ by Brad Blanton is what that comment immediately reminded me of.

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7532yahoogmailJun 2020

I am familiar with Blanton's Radical Honesty if that's your reference. What was your experience?

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methusala8Nov 2018

a) Crucial Conversations, Kerry Patterson

b) Way of the Wolf, Jordan Belfort

c) Never Split the difference, Chris Voss

d) Radical Honesty, Brad Blanton

e) Outthink the competition, Krippendorff

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spacevaderJul 2018

I think it is time for you to take Massive Action to improve your political, persuasion, speech, conflict negotiation skills. I’ll Make some recommendations below after this monologue.

I worked in some very awful environments. My solution was historically to participate in what was going on and the ultimately become very upset and leave. Generally speaking, conflict is present everywhere but far worse in some environments and not possible to save.

You can either (a)attempt to clean the mess and make your new environment habitable or (b) keep your head down, ship your project and leave.

Your intent to do (a) is admirable and rare. If the culture has become toxic, attempting to survive is kind of like being a fish in a dirty fish tank. You can gasp for air and breathe your own poop in for some period of time but you are ultimately poisoning yourself by staying and the point of doing this isn’t clear.

The economy is currently at full employment. In this situation I would most advice getting out. You are never going to have an easier time finding a better paying job someplace else. Chances are we are headed into some sort of financial meltdown due to China, trade war, China retaliating against the United States tech sector, one or more countries leaving the Euro and the final deflation of our current bubble due to lack of interest rates.

If you don’t like where you are, it may become much harder to find a better job in the next year in which case - You get to breathe in your own poop for several years for no real gain to your own mental health.

If you are really sticking to it and mastering communication, psychology, politics and persuasion I recommend:

Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson

Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss

The Political Brain by Drew Weston

Influence by Robert Cialdini

Words That Work by Frank Luntz

Pre-Suasion by Robert Cialdini

Win Bigly by Scott Adams

Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton

I just bought this book but haven’t yet read it -

Radical Candor by Kim Scott

My recommendation to you is not to take the route of dishonesty, back stabbing, lying, deceit.

Do. Not. Participate.

Be the person who is ridiculously truthful. Draw clear barriers and IMMEDIATELY and POLITELY call out transgressions you see.

Awful behavior within the organization is like weeds growing in your yard. You must not tolerate a single weed. When you see someone doing or saying something (especially if they are being deceitful and you see through what they are doing), Call Them On It.

Nothing will suppress bullshit like pointing it out and making it clear that you see what is going on and would prefer it otherwise.

That is my lesson in my life. When I ultimately decided to be truthful it created this halo around me which melted all bullshit, zapped it like a bug zapper.

And don’t engage in shit talking other people.

Engaging in shitty behavior within a company is like farting in a submarine. There is no escape, no one is going anywhere, everyone is exposed to the toxic stink including you. There can be zero farting in the submarine before the culture can be fixed.

Godspeed.

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